In preparing to make this edited 2012 repost, I had to refresh myself on the circumstances that stirred me up before the Lord to write it in the first place. Ms. Rosen’s now famous rebuke of Ann Romney which she walked back the next day certainly led to what is presented spiritually in the post and which I fully stand by in step with the posts I made on feminism last spring.1 However, also heavily on my heart that I did not include then was how that debate was so much one of race and class privilege. Mostly white women up until recent times could have such a debate about the work of women at home or outside of it.
Black women from slavery have had little choice but to work outside of the home to help support their families. What is striking is that the black women I have read about and known personally such as my grandmother, mother and wife did not complain or believe that they somehow were being cheated. Working to help support their families was something that had to be done and they did it with a resolute joy--though they came home tired and with sore feet; looking only for us children and when I married, husband, to show some appreciation by helping with household duties. I confess resentment in my youth I regret to having to wash dishes and do other household chores.
I did better as a Christian husband--although my daughters still laugh about my combing their hair on occasion for school. Women that work outside of the home in black and other communities of color is a fact of life. I salute all that do so including the memory of my grandmother, mother and with thanks to God, my wife, Mary, still with me whose employment and other sacrifices down through our thirty-eight years together have helped make it possible that I could serve in this Ministry. Happy Mother’s Day to all of the mothers who work in and outside of the home; blessing their families as a result!
Originally Posted April 15, 2012
To tell the truth, I was not shocked by the national collision and resulting discussion of worldviews that took place last week on the issue of women that work in and outside of the home. In the second chapter of my book, The Strong Man Of God: Back To Basics, I am led by the Lord to address the 21st century confusion on what a man and woman are head on.2 It is an inescapable issue in light of the rejection of God’s ancient instruction on the matter by the secular world and a rising number of professed Christians along with their churches. And of course, it is the rejection of the absolutes of God’s Word that gives rise to the confusion and subsequent worldview collisions.
Democrat Hilary Rosen’s declaration on a News show that Ann Romney, the wife of Republican Presidential candidate, Mitt Romney, “never worked a day in her life,” sparked the latest round of national heated discussion over not only whether stay at home mothers really work or not, but the larger question of a woman’s role and place in the family. Whether she is a card carrying feminist or not, Ms. Rosen’s comment and attitude with it is typical of many women that are. Having encountered many feminists in my years of ministry, there seems to be antagonism toward especially Christian women that willfully choose to be full-time wives and mothers. In their minds, “real women” do the home thing, but only as they also pursue personal ambitions--whatever they may be.
The truth is, the woman that devotes herself full-time to her husband and family is pleasing to God and so is the one that in support of her family, chooses to (or must) work outside of the home as long as she does not neglect any of her divinely assigned responsibilities (Titus 2:1-5). Ah, and that is the catch for the career minded woman who like her male counterpart must often sacrifice family on the altar of achieving success. Clearly, God is not pleased with either a man or woman who does this. Both the stay at home and the employed woman can work hard; aspiring great women of God in the image of Christ in either situation will work very hard in order to please Him and their families. I devote two chapters of my book discussing such women.
Incredibly, the aspiring great woman of God does not feel nor is she chained to the home if she commits to serving her family full-time. As demonstrated by the woman of Proverbs 31:10-31, she sees fully after the needs of her husband and children first. But then she uses her home honed skills and God-given management abilities to operate businesses and/or serve others. At the end of the day, the family of this hard working woman is blessed by and calls her blessed that is motivated foremost by a desire to please God (Proverbs 31:30)!3
1 Read the posts beginning April 15-June 3, 2018.
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