Satan’s lie that to call out sin is to hate the person guilty of it has kept many married Christian men from calling out a wife or daughter’s adoption of worldly feminist values. Single Christian men face the same problem as they pray, seek out and wait on God for what the wisest man on earth three thousand years ago described as “An excellent wife,” (Proverbs 12:4a, NKJV). Now, while the times in the world may have changed in just one, short generation since the hard launch in the 1960s of what has flowered into 21st century feminism, it is not for the better for Christians seeking suitable mates! Still, there is hope for those that will be the person of God’s design and proceed His way.
Marking the one year anniversary on October 8th of the roll out of The Great Woman Of God Women’s Group Study,1 as the author, I can assure prospective what current users already know: the content is fully biblical as is my writing motive in love for God and women. Truly, I could not be misogynistic (hateful) toward women as the accuser would have it if I wanted to since the God of the Bible I serve charges us who love Him like Him, to also love even our enemies (Matthew 5:43-48)! 2 Thus, the slanderous accusation of being “inauthentic” in celebrating women as God designed by a Facebook content monitor during our spring promotional campaign or anyone is thoroughly satanic.
In the power of the Holy Spirit and His assignment through this Ministry’s cause to restore men, their families and communities, I have cried out in zealous love against Satan’s wicked scheme through feminism to destroy them. As I have repeatedly written, feminism of the world is diametrically opposed to God’s design of men, women and the family; negatively impacting communities as we see today in the ghastly extent of disorder, dysfunction and destruction. What God did for mankind in His original design at the beginning “was very good,” (Genesis 1:31, NKJV). Now, under fallen, proud humanity wiser than God, things have degenerated to the point of total collapse unless He intervenes.
I joyfully write instructing men and women about the great woman of God first in my book, The Strong Man Of God: Back To Basics.3 She is a marvel of divine design as the potential excellent wife Solomon writes about that “is the crown of her husband,” (Proverbs 12:4a, NKJV). Indeed, because such a woman is built of the excellencies of character and dedication to her husband and family in accepting the divine order, her roles as well as responsibilities within it, she is prized to the degree later in the Proverbs that the question is asked, ‘“Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies,’” (Proverbs 31:10, NKJV).4 This woman was rare millennia ago and still is today!
Conversely, Solomon pens, “But she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones,” (Proverbs 12:4b, NKJV). Surely, a wife that causes shame to her husband is one that lacks a life changing relationship with the living God and the consequent inner beauty He works in her. An example of this kind of woman Solomon writes about is one that is “contentious” (Proverbs 19:13, 21:9, 25:24, NKJV). Systemic to worldly feminism is contending not to be under male headship--a non-starter in biblical marriage and a guaranteed source of strife in all but those marriages where the husband submits to the headship of his wife contrary to God’s order of mankind (1 Corinthians 11:3).5
Nevertheless, the aspiring great woman of God in the image of Jesus Christ is virtuous and equipped to be that excellent wife. In the women’s group study, the Lord leads me to introduce the way to knowing Him through salvation, His will and design of woman along with His nature displayed and character He constructs in her with the resulting demeanor! To inspire and help females going through the group study see Christ’s character traits, they are presented individually as displayed in select godly women in the Bible. Naomi in the book of Ruth for example, is chosen to represent Christ’s character trait of empathy as she displayed to her widowed daughters-in-law (Ruth 1).
Not presented among those aforementioned godly women is Ruth, who easily displays all of the individual character traits of the women’s group study in composite form! She is from among the idol worshipping Moabites who are descendants of Lot (Genesis 19:30-38). After living with her Jewish husband before his death and around his mother, Naomi, some ten years, Ruth insists on returning with her to Judah, Israel. Ruth’s famous statement of devotion after Naomi bid both her daughters-in-law stay in their own land includes a clear turning from idols to the God of her mother-in-law, Israel and the Bible (Ruth 1:15-18)! From this point on, Ruth shows herself for example, humble and submissive to Naomi; so much so, all the people and one important man notice (Ruth 2).
As Naomi intuitively knew, Boaz was interested in Ruth. Through her counsel, Naomi set widowed Ruth on a path to the blessings of biblically sanctioned marriage, motherhood and eternal fame. For she bore a son to Boaz who would become the grandfather of king David and in the line of the Messiah, Jesus of Nazareth, his Descendant (Ruth 3-4; Matthew 1:1-17). Who can find an excellent wife? The aspiring strong man of God in the image of Christ who like Boaz, has his eyes and ears open to see and hear her. She will be aspiring to be a great woman of God in the image of Christ in nature, character and demeanor. She will be found in His Word; studying it and seeking to live it out. She may not be a “brick house,” but she will be built right by God (Proverbs 19:14)!
1 This important group study for females is available with the corresponding male group study at all major internet book sellers and in the Strong Man Store. However, only
the Strong Man Store has the important accessory Power Point help for the instructor on CD-Rom. While examining the group study resources in the Strong Man Store,
be sure to click the links for more in depth information.
2 See the May 3, 2015 post, Childish Arguments, under the category, The Cause, where I make the same genuine declaration. If through his children as Satan falsely ac-
cuses (John 8:44; Revelation 12:9-10), any calling out of sin is hatred for the person(s) called out, how can parents correct their children any longer; a society its law-
breakers? Such an accusation is absurd and w ickedly childish to the extreme; another reason I through the Spirit of the living God steadfastly declare feminism to be
among the foretold latter day “doctrines of demons,” (1 Timothy 4:1, NKJV).
3 The book is also available at your favorite internet book seller and in the Strong Man Store. Read the October 4, 2020 post, The Great Woman Of God, under the cate-
gory, The Cause, to be introduced to her in this Blog.
4 See the October 11, 2020 post, The Great Woman Of God’s Character, under the category, The Cause.
5 Let every faithful Christian husband as the pastor-teacher of his house stand firm to speak “the truth in love” about feminism to his professed Christian wife and other fe-
male family members that they may hear and avert disaster (Ephesians 4:14-15, NKJV)!
Entailing as it does such a magnitude of responsibility from God, it is amazing to me looking back over membership in churches since 1977 that so little instructional importance was attached to parenting and fathering in particular. New member orientations if any, instead, focused on introducing church leaders, beliefs, responsibilities, programs, activities and service opportunities. Intensive training and equipping if any, offered in depth Bible study topics and in a few churches, deep theological education. All of this was done in the quickest possible time frame lest the relative few participants became even fewer!1 This has been devastating to Christian men and their families.
Fathering like God is not natural to sinful mortal men as I have painfully discovered in my own journey during these latter days. Sadly today, it is not widely seen enough either to be emulated or purposely taught among professed Christians and their churches as I opened this post lamenting. Being a father with all it involves as God the Father exemplifies in His Word and intends for human fathers to imitate is a life skill that is supposed to be intentionally passed on by them to their sons through precept and example as I write in The Strong Man Of God: Back To Basics.2 However, with so many sons without their fathers doing this on purpose, fallen human models of fathering prevail.
Fallen human models of fathering run the gambit of sin driven conduct. These models are learned from having watched one’s own father (with the family or not) or someone else’s; taking in as well, those portrayed in all forms of media and the streets.3 The fallen human models include, but are not limited to the absent, willfully neglectful, verbally and physically abusive, self-centered, grumpy, harsh, stern, intimidating, controlling, overly disciplinary (which is where I was as I write about in my book), not disciplinary enough or at all, spoiler, pushover, briber, pleaser etc. Though no fallen father is nor can be perfect before God, those that do better father more like Him.
Such fathers may have had not only good instruction, but examples from their own fathers. As maturing Christians, they may have also come to appreciate that childrearing is a sacred and fearful responsibility from God one needs His help with and why in His infinite wisdom He confined procreation to a man and woman committed to each other in holy marriage as the best arrangement for it. However they came to it, these men consider the business of fathering an important and serious undertaking. They understand initiating the existence of a new human being is only the beginning of an incredible experience that must be purposely planned for, embraced and carried out.
Indeed, this is the example of God the Father in the Bible. From eternity He purposely planned and prepared for the creation of man (Genesis 1:1-26, 2:4-6). Then, He embraced and carried out initiating man’s existence from the dust (Genesis 2:7). After this, He led, taught His will, provided for and gave environmental protection first to Adam and then, his wife taken out of him (Genesis 2:8-25). At the end of God the Father’s creative work, Scripture summarizes it, His marching orders and instruction to the first man and woman as well as presents His appraisal of the momentous occasion (Genesis 1:27-31). Nothing about the foregoing is done haphazardly or at a distance.
Furthermore, when the first couple sinned, God the Father brought His promised consequence and then some, while also clearly demonstrating His continuing love for them (Genesis 3). He purposely displays and teaches His model of Fathering throughout all of the rest of Scripture so that certainly, we that profess to know Him are without excuse for our ignorance. Yet, four years into being a Christian and church attendance, I entered into marriage and a blended family ignorant. For nearly another ten years I struggled to walk out God's Fathering learned from the Bible with no church instruction until finally, my then, pastor, began a purposeful teaching on the family out of Scripture.4
At the same time, my pastor introduced us men to the Promise Keepers men’s movement. Heightened in interest by my need, as a Christian radio announcer and avid listener, I also started paying attention to the instructive counsel about what a father is and does coming from national programs such as Focus On The Family and those produced locally out of Dallas, TX. Slowly, with my own intentional Bible study on the issues of manhood, marriage and family, the veil of ignorance began to lift; change and growth in my fathering through the help and power of the Holy Spirit to overcome sin and sinful flesh fed character flaws, attitudes and behavior that continues to this day!5
Even so, though well intended and better than no man and fatherhood church instruction at all in the early 1990s, the growing popular teaching clearly was not fully biblical as I was learning since for example, while God’s order of mankind electing men as leaders was acknowledged, it was not being practiced in the many of churches of American Christianity.6 Biblically conservative churches of every hue that will be true to “the whole counsel of God” must repent as I did from departure from it in any teaching of man and fatherhood and their example; dereliction to intentionally present it as the apostle Paul modeled (Acts 20:25-27; Ephesians 6:4, NKJV).7 Worse off than I was in ignorance, 21st century males coming to Christ absolutely need this instruction in a confused culture now, hostile to it!
1 Though I write here primarily of churches I did not also serve as pastor, in full transparency I acknowledge coming up short of and not doing more to reach the instructional
mark I write about when I was a pastor.
2 The book is published by Open Door Communication Ministries, Inc. and available in print or digital formats at major internet booksellers. You can also purchase a print
copy along with its companion, The Strong Man Of God Men’s Group Study for in-person or virtual use in the Strong Man Store.
3 Physically, emotionally, mentally or spiritually present or absent, biological fathers teach our sons and daughters whether we purposely intend to or not. Writing in my book
and other places, it is the standing and force of authority God has given to and designed men with that is the source and cause of this. Read especially my June 21, 2015
part one post, Mama’s boys, under the category, Black History.
4 Very importantly, with church instruction also came a sense of accountability, empathy and group support.
5 Without making excuses for myself or any professed Christian not an active rebel (writing the following only to clarify the biblically taught reality of the marathon journey we
are on), Christians are not fully formed at new spiritual birth anymore than a physically newborn human being. Christian fathers as redeemed sinners develop and grow over
time (some slower than others) into this role as all of our other roles through the often painful process of uncovering and being convicted by God about sinful thinking, atti-
tudes and conduct in putting “off the old” and putting “on the new man,” (Ephesians 4:17-32, NKJV). We struggle with sin aroused by the Law within and righteousness and
must have our minds renewed putting on the new man as a conscious and deliberate decision every moment to walk in the Spirit our Helper (John 14:15-18; Romans 7:12-
8:13; Galatians 5:16-25).
6 See the three-part post beginning January 8, 2017, In God’s Revival Men Are Restored, under the category, The Cause.
7 Read the September 20, 2020 post, What Will It Profit A Man?, under the category, The Cause.
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